In 2017 women and men in Hollywood started making a stand against unwanted sexual abuse, a conversation long overdue. The #MeToo movement began to encourage others to start sharing their incidents of sexual abuse and how we all can help prevent it from happening. Accusing someone of abuse is a very serious offence and in most cases, criminal. Over the weekend, an article published on babe.net telling the story of a woman who went on a date with Ansari. The article itself does not claim that Ansari sexually abused the unknown woman, but it does say she felt “violated” from the sexual encounter.
Aziz and the woman meet at the 2017 Emmy Awards. They eventually went on date and the pair then headed to Aziz’s New York apartment. The article describes the encounter of the date from the unknown woman’s POV. While she was in the apartment, Aziz started making sexual advances toward her which lead to both of them performing oral sex on each other. The unknown woman said at one point she needed to take a break from Aziz advances and went into the bathroom for five minutes to get herself together. When she returned from the bathroom Aziz asked her if she was ok and her response was “I said I don’t want to feel forced because then ill hate you, and id rather not hate you.”
The woman continued with the date even though she was feeling uncomfortable at the time on the promise from Aziz that they will take it slow and just “chill”. A few moments later, the woman said Aziz motioned her “to go down on him”. Feeling pressured the woman did. Aziz then convinced her into a sexual position by a big mirror, that’s when the woman said “no”. Aziz then told her they can put their clothes back on and watch TV. The woman agreed and while they were sitting there Aziz again started with his advancements. That’s when the woman decided she was done and had enough of Aziz’s foolishness. She got p to call a cab, but Aziz got her a Uber instead. On the way home the woman, text a few of her friends to tell them how awful her date went.
The next morning Aziz text her, “Hey-it was fun meeting you last night. I just dropped my roll of film today. Fingers crossed for some solid shots!”
The woman replied to Aziz and mentioned how uncomfortable she felt, “Hey Aziz nice meeting you too, I hope you have some good shots on the roll. Last night might’ve been fun for you it wasn’t for me. When we got back to your place, you ignored clear non-verbal cues; you kept going with advances. You had to have noticed I was uncomfortable. I just want to take this moment to make you aware of this behavior and how uneasy it made me. Really think back to last night. You may have said “its okay, only fun if we’re both enjoying it, let’s chill” but within moments of that your fingers were down my throat. You were putting my hand on your dick continuously. It’s like nothing changed even after I expressed that I’d like to slow it down. It may have seemed okay. But I didn’t feel good at all. All day I’ve been playing it over, I’m realizing how much it affected me. I want to make sure you’re aware so maybe the net girl doesn’t have to cry on the ride home. Good luck on your movie, thank you for dinner”.
Aziz responded, “I’m so sad to hear this. All I can say is, it would never be my intention to make you or anyone feel the way you described. Clearly, I misread things in the moment and I’m truly sorry.”
This is the text Grace* sent Aziz Ansari after their date which left her feeling “violated”. She tells Ansari how uncomfortable he made her feel, saying “you ignored clear non-verbal cues” and “kept going with advances.”
— babe (@babedotnet) January 14, 2018
Alter the article titled “I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. It turned into the worst night of my life“, was published, Aziz issued this statement:
“In September of last year, I met a woman at a party. We exchanged numbers. We texted back and forth and eventually went on a date. We went out to dinner, and afterwards we ended up engaging in sexual activity, which by all indications was completely consensual.
The next day, I got a text from her saying that although ‘it may have seemed okay’ upon reflection, she felt uncomfortable. It was true that everything did seem okay to me, so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned. I took her words to heart and responded privately after taking time to process what she had said.”
Let’s be clear, unwanted sexual advancement and abuse is not cool. But in this case, it does not appear that the woman was forced into the situation. She had plenty of time to leave the apartment, instead she and Aziz remained naked for a few minutes. The entire time the woman had opportunity to leave, but she didn’t. Now, if she tried to leave and he forced her into doing something she didn’t want to do, then yeah he deserved to be labeled a sexual predator. But it seem clear that what the woman endured was a bad date. Aziz may be one of those guys that has no idea why they have so much bad luck with women, until the unknown woman told him how much of an ass he was.
— Crime & Justice (@CrimeJusticeHLN) January 16, 2018
I’m getting nervous… Victims of sexual assault want justice. I get it, I support it. A bad date with Aziz Ansari is not a crime and should not be used to ruin his career. Women are starting to go too far in some cases, #AzizAnsari
— Bryanna (@Bryanna2017) January 14, 2018
I’m not even trying to assign blame for the horrible date and her bad feelings. But the #metoo movement is about outing sexual predators, not making a guy pay for being insensitive, horny, and unable to read ur mind.
— C. M. S. (@CMS012345) January 14, 2018
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Source of the article: Babe