Valentine’s Day, celebrated every February 14, is a day devoted to lovers and all forms of affection. Whether you’re already in a committed relationship or just beginning something new, the holiday offers a moment to pause and appreciate the connections that bring warmth and meaning to your life. It’s a time for people to celebrate their love for one another—through thoughtful gestures, shared experiences, or simply expressing feelings that often go unsaid.

With that being said, February 15, the day after Valentine’s Day, has been dubbed National Side Chick Day.

What Is a “Side Chick,” Really?

A “side chick” is typically a woman involved romantically or physically with someone who is already in a committed relationship. Sometimes she knows. Sometimes she doesn’t. Sometimes she finds out mid-way and stays anyway. Let’s be real: if you can’t post him, claim him, or call him at 2AM without checking who’s beside him… you’re not winning. You’re renting. If you have to hide to exist in someone’s life, you’re not powerful. You’re temporary. And temporary roles don’t come with long-term respect.

February 15th: National Side Chick Day 👀

Valentine’s Day is for the main. February 15th? That’s for the “appreciation tour.” Let’s call it what it is. On February 14th, he’s posting roses. He’s at dinner. He’s smiling in matching pajamas. On February 15th? Now he’s “finally free.” Now he’s “been thinking about you all day.” Now he can “slide through.” If your flowers show up discounted and one day late, you’re not the priority. You’re the afterparty.

10 Signs You’re The Side Chick

1. You’ve Never Been to His House

Not once.

You’ve seen the car.
You’ve seen hotel rooms.
You’ve seen the passenger seat.

But his actual home?
Suddenly that’s classified information.

If the address is top secret, you’re not the main character.

2. Holidays = Radio Silence

Christmas?
Thanksgiving?
His birthday?

He disappears like Wi-Fi during a storm.

If every major holiday turns into a 48-hour ghosting session, congratulations — you’re not on the family plan.

3. You Can’t Call Whenever You Want

You text first.

You wait.

You calculate “Is it safe to call?”

If you need permission to access him, you don’t have access. You have appointment hours.

4. He Talks Bad About Her — But Never Leaves

“She’s crazy.”
“We don’t even sleep together.”
“I’m just there for the kids.”
“We’re basically roommates.”

Cool.

So why is he still there?

Because complaining isn’t the same as packing.

5. You Don’t Exist on Social Media

No tags.
No comments.
No pictures.
No accidental reflections in mirrors.

You are in witness protection.

Meanwhile, she’s posted. Publicly.

6. Plans With You Are Always Last-Minute

“Slide through.”
“You up?”
“Come over real quick.”

Notice he never books vacations with you. Never plans months ahead. Never introduces you to friends.

You’re a convenience, not a commitment.

7. You’ve Been “Waiting” For Over a Year

He’s “almost done.”
He’s “working on it.”
He’s “figuring things out.”

Meanwhile, seasons changed. Rent increased. Gas prices went up.

But his situation? Exactly the same.

If he wanted out, he’d be out.

8. You Feel Anxious More Than Secure

Be honest.

You check his activity.
You stalk her page.
You overanalyze his tone.

If your “relationship” feels like an FBI investigation, that’s not love. That’s uncertainty.

9. You’re His Emotional Dumping Ground

He vents to you.
He complains to you.
He escapes to you.

But when it comes to building something real? Silence.

You’re therapy with benefits.

10. Deep Down… You Know

This is the one.

No matter how many excuses you make for him, your intuition whispers the truth.

If he hasn’t left yet, he’s not leaving.

You’re not “next.”
You’re “on the side.”

February 15th isn’t an official holiday. It’s a reality check. If you only get attention after the main event ends, you’re not the headline. You’re the afterparty. And afterparties don’t last.